A tale of Love: Day One

Hello,

It’s been two weeks since I posted on this blog.

Between school, working on “Donut,” a number of other projects and I have not been disciplined enough to carve out time to blog. Discipline, I say, because that’s what it takes to sit at my laptop and [as Ernest Hemingway put it] bleed. Well, technically, writing sincerely from the heart is bleeding. joshua

Anyway, such things happen… but the most important thing is that I’m here now. Here with “a tale of love.”

It all started on November 2. I woke up with those words clearly emblazoned on my heart:

“Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you your heart desires.”

I was ecstatic! I wanted my heart desires granted. I want a peaceful and adventurous life – a life of purpose – I want to write, work to build the lives of young people, use creativity to transform lives. I want to experience the power of God and to know where my medical training is going to fit into my life’s work… I also desire to live happily, loved and guided by God in marriage and life path.

So I figured, if I wanted my desires to be granted, I would need to delight. 

Now, what does it mean to “delight?”

It wasn’t long before I discovered that those words were found in the Bible, so I decided to study.

The commentaries “said” to delight in God is to seek our happiness in God – in his being, his perfections, his friendship, his love:

It means to keep company with God, enjoy serving the Lord and find happiness in the Lord. The fact that you seek your happiness in him will regulate your desires, so that you will be “disposed” to ask only those things that it will be proper for him to grant; and the fact that you do find your happiness in him will be a reason why he will grant your desires.

However, the meaning of “Delight” did not sink until recently, when I was studying the friendship between David and Jonathan. I saw that “Jonathan, Saul’s son, delighted greatly in David.”

My eyes widened – if the word “delight” was used here, then what they did together might give me an idea of what delight means.

So I dug deep. And I want to share the treasures with you. As you read, please do endeavour to learn a thing or two.

Let’s shoot!

 

Jonathan was with David at every available opportunity [vs 19:2]

I have had my share of beautiful friendships and not so great ones. So, this is not an article by a guru in relationships – just a young man sharing with others what he learns from God about life.

The first thing I learnt about David and Jonathan’s friendship was that Jonathan was with David at every available opportunity.

A common observation in all great friendships is that they are together at every available opportunity, face to face, or on phone or social media outlets. Distance is not really a barrier – they can travel miles just to visit a friend.

The key to building stronger relationships is presence – being together, physically and in heart and purpose. And…

 

Jonathan communicated everything to David [19:2]

What do you do when you are together?

Conversation fuels relationships.

How regularly do you speak with your best friend? How much information do you pass across? Do you really delight so much in them that you are unafraid to share secrets and information you have that could help them?

As each person opens up, it may seem awkward at first, but soon, the gap is bridged. You learn about the person’s passions, desires, challenges and offer help.

Apply this to your communion with God – consistent communication encourages deeper relationship. As you pour your heart to Him, you hear His voice, share His thoughts and you can learn to live His way of joy! Simple!

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When they were not together, Jonathan stood up for David [He defended David] [19:4]

When Saul sent emissaries to kill David, Jonathen spoke well of David to Saul so much that it convinced Saul to stop his hideous plan for a season. Do not be ashamed to defend your siblings or friends in the face of criticism. It keeps them going when they know that you believe in them so well that you are willing to stick your neck out for them.

I picked that, a sign of delighting in God is to stand for him. Defend his cause in front of people who do not really know about him.

 

Jonathan was committed to David [20:3, 16]

When couples make vows to each other, they both say it with a mind determined to stick with each other for life [at least, that is what should be!] The marriage vows bound by the heavens is a bond only as strong as death itself.

David and Jonathan’s oath was renewed every available opportunity and as the challenges heightened! They just had safety check in case someone was drifting away!

DO you have safety checks on your spiritual life? How do you gauge your fervency?

The 21st century seems to have a predilection for weak human relationships – no serious commitment, no evaluation. Marriages work as long as there is fair weather.  Friends split as soon as one person corrects another.

Can we do something about this?

 

The journey continues in two days… and we will talk about love.

Cheers,

Toluwanimi

 

P.S: If you have not gotten HeirWalk 12, it’s still available on the blog. Download your digital copy by clicking here.  And give me feedback.

 

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4 Comments Add yours

  1. Oyinloye Ibukunoluwa says:

    I don’t think I like the David and Jonathan story. little wonder I don’t think that part of the Bible has ever ministered to me. However, here is a different case, same reason you inspire me per time.

    Back to my prejudice of the David/Jonathan story. I stand to be corrected. Is it a right mindset to be willing to die for my friend who is supposed to take my place? I believe in the fellowship of the brethren, discipleshi. I don’t believe in friendship because I don’t think there is a Biblical prototype to follow.

    1. Joshua says:

      Ibukun,
      I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this matter. It’s a bitter-sweet story, but looking at the big picture, it epitomizes love which essentially is sacrifice, and this is the hallmark of true relationship.

      Relationship strings together Marriage. Discipleship. Friendship.

      I have prayed for and been blessed to have few friends in my growing up, who have pushed me closer to God, helped me and I’ve done the same for them.

      The Bible contains prototypes to follow. Type “friend” or “friendship” on your concordance and you will see a range of references even from Moses and God, Abraham and God and between men. Jonathan and David, jonadab and Ammon are just few examples. Of the bad and the good. Proverbs and other books tell us the characteristics and benefits of friendship. Jesus mentioned it too:I call you friends, because I tell you everything (my paraphrase).

      Is it a right mindset to be willing to die for my friend who is supposed to take my place?

      Well, Jonathan gave his place of kingship. True.
      The crux of the story is “a friend will push you closer to God’s will for your life…” it’s just sad that Jonathan had to be loyal to his father also. If he had stayed with David, he probably would be Alive to sit next to David on the throne.

      Though this story was an extreme situation, friendship essentially involves sacrifice “dying” in many ways.

      Sacrifice is a deep word.

      Note: True friendship isn’t about what you get, but what you give for the good of the other, and it suppose to be mutual.

      Jonathan typified a friend like Jesus, who gives all and continues to.

      Keep checking the blog.

  2. Oyinloye Ibukunoluwa says:

    I don’t think I like the David and Jonathan story. little wonder I don’t think that part of the Bible has ever ministered to me. However, here is a different case, same reason you inspire me per time.

    Back to my prejudice of the David/Jonathan story. I stand to be corrected. Is it a right mindset to be willing to die for my friend who is supposed to take my place? I believe in the fellowship of the brethren, discipleship, and. marriage but not friendship because I don’t think there is a Biblical prototype to follow.

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