The photographer


To call them a couple was kind of awkward. The word fitted more, young lovers. But what would you call them after decades?

I lived with them for the better part of my growing years so I know that they lived the principles they shared with those young couples that do visit them and ask questions about “how to go about it.” Whatever they said was like law.

The other day, I summoned enough courage to ask them how they got it right.

They didn’t rattle some seven or so steps to marital bliss… or some other haughty answers.


“I know,” I thought. “Everybody covers up with that.”

But they were quite clear.
“It’s God. Whenever you involve him from the beginning of choice making and he remains involved deep into marriage, you can’t help but have joy.”


I looked up at the group of gorgeously dressed people- young and old- posing infront of me, impatiently beckoning to me.


I smiled as I my mind drifted back to the present.

As I arranged the group finally, I could do little to reveal the faces of the celebrant couple from behind the giant butter cake. I wasn’t so much of a professional, but I could still get a manageable result.

By instinct, they all shouted “happy sixtieth anniversary.”

I clicked the shutter.

# marriageandfamilylife.


P.s.: this is a pondering on what makes a marriage and family work.

Author: Toluwanimi

Toluwanimi believes young people can do great things with their lives. “Give them wings; watch them soar,” He always says. He is a physician by training and a budding behavioral scientist with a keen interest in child and adolescent health and development. Having worked with teenagers for over a decade, he loves to study and practice evidenced-based methods of inspiring positive behavioral change. His current project, GrandHeights, aims to provide resources and mentorship connections that inspire and empower young people to realize their life’s full potential despite negative circumstances around them. He plans to develop an establishment that will conduct research, develop effective strategies that will impart hope, empowerment, and refuge for youth and families in at-risk situations. He also believes creativity can be a transformative tool and through his start-up, Missionary Creatives, he helps nonprofits tell their stories and develop strategies to drive growth.

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