A muse on LOVE


Love does not harm.
Loves doesn’t sin.
If love can be the driving energy for our lives, and determinant of our thoughts, words, actions and reactions, we can be sure that we will always do the right thing.

The misdeeds of man is summed up in his inability to love his fellow man as himself. This manifests in all crimes, dispute and wars.

What is love?

I am yet to comprehend what love is or does, but I know what it doesn’t do.

The average Nigerian christian is unwilling to act in violent response to terrorist and religious insurgents for example, not because he loves them, but because he is wary of disobeying the commandmment. That is dangerous, for this seed of hatred, festering in place of love, is responsible for the abusive verbal outbursts when the news flashes fresh death; violent prayers being channeled towards their camps, and feeling of cold triumph when the army kills a number of them in shootouts.

The average believer doesn’t retaliate a wrong doing not because he has learnt to love, but because he wants to obey, “vengeance is mine…” Nevertheless, seeds of festering hatred manifests in the “serves you right” he mutters underneath his breath as the wrongdoer faces misfortune, and his refusal to help out of this wrongdoer’s misery even when he is called to be an extension of salvation to the sinner.

The average Christian says that “I don’t care how my actions make people feel, it’s between me and God.” But I learnt love “doesnt take actions that distreses others.”

Love is more elusive than we think.
Love tastes like bitterleaf, especially when you want to show it. Because it truly triumphs in undeserving recipients.

But I know that if a man can love, He will live right. Always.

Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.*

A natural man cannot exhibit these qualities completely because they are divinely engineered. Even a believer may not experience the liberation of these figures until he submits his will to the machinations of the spirit.

Love cancels out a man’s propensity to do wrong towards God or man.

Don’t run up debts, except for the huge debt of love you owe each other. When you love others, you complete what the law has been after all along.
The law code—don’t sleep with another person’s spouse, don’t take someone’s life, don’t take what isn’t yours, don’t always be wanting what you don’t have, and any other “don’t” you can think of—finally adds up to this: Love other people as well as you do yourself.
You can’t go wrong when you love others. When you add up everything in the law code, the sum total is love.**

Do you want to be free?

Look into the love God has for you-  he made a provision of salvation to undeserving man. Plug into the depth of this grace and let it stimulate a response of gratitude, loyalty and faith in him.
Then let love be birthed, and grow in you so that your life will be free of wrongdoing.

*1 Corinthians 13:4-13
*Romans 13:8-10


Author: Toluwanimi

Toluwanimi believes young people can do great things with their lives. “Give them wings; watch them soar,” He always says. He is a physician by training and a budding behavioral scientist with a keen interest in child and adolescent health and development. Having worked with teenagers for over a decade, he loves to study and practice evidenced-based methods of inspiring positive behavioral change. His current project, GrandHeights, aims to provide resources and mentorship connections that inspire and empower young people to realize their life’s full potential despite negative circumstances around them. He plans to develop an establishment that will conduct research, develop effective strategies that will impart hope, empowerment, and refuge for youth and families in at-risk situations. He also believes creativity can be a transformative tool and through his start-up, Missionary Creatives, he helps nonprofits tell their stories and develop strategies to drive growth.

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