I love beautiful things. And that’s my weak point.
So I stayed up late yesterday, and instead of study, I watched some AMAZING wedding videos on Vimeo. Engaging the tools of pomp and pageantry, they just beautifully captured the symbolism of marriage as a beautiful thing and a life-long journey with someone you found, chose to love and spend the rest of your life with. You do make that commitment in public… till death parts you.

Now, I think I might have watched about twenty-something five minute videos on the video producer’s page. Now, do the calculation but don’t blame me.

It’s just beautiful!

Among the personal heart-warming vows, the radiant smiles and elegant dance steps of friends and family, I saw an excited couple looking forward to a beautiful life together.

And to add to the spark ignited on my mind, like a breeze, my medical school friends are getting married one after the other – friends from my University Fellowship and class. And I have been missing out of the spice because I’m not in town.

Well, since I have scoured ideas from all the videos I’ve watched and gist I’ve gathered, mine will be greater (it gets better, right?) Example, I want to wash (like Jesus) and kiss her feet at the reception.

And come to think of it, I haven’t been a super-fan of weddings such that I can count on my fingers the number of weddings I have attended, but I’m beginning to see the reason why people expend so much time, energy and money to make sure that this day is perfect. Then for their lives together, they celebrate this day.

My best answer: because of what wedding symbolizes.

The wedding ceremonies are always beautiful. There is grandeur of varying degrees depending on how creative the planners are, how much cash can be made available, as well as how much twist the family of the bride and groom can come up with. The marriage vows are so heartfelt that they can marry you, as a wedding writer put it, and chronicles the personal commitment the couple is making to one another – to be together FOREVER. Beautiful.

Now, how many times have I said beautiful?

But as good as it is, the wedding is only a grand entrance into a marriage, which is meant to be even better! What happens to the couple on that day is supposed to be a sip of what they are going to experience for the rest of their lives.

The next best thing after the wedding is the married life.

That one or two days, is the grand public declaration, but every day following, it should get better, as rubber hits the road and the vows are tested, individual lives jellying and molding together to form a union.

In all the videos, one recurring element was the commitment to be for the other person, love unconditionally, and take the life journey together. Between kids and work, challenges and triumphs, in sickness and in health, for richer and poorer, the vow is meant to hold true like an anchor in a storm. More so, if it’s founded as a three-fold cord, with God.

Let me stop at the beautiful details. But only time will test the genuineness of the vows and show the beauty of the union.
It’s good to realize that God symbolized His relationship with us to a marriage. He chose us, loved us and is committed to us – in fact, He will wed us one day, at the marriage supper.

In matters of love and faith, commitment runs both ways. And the end will justify the means.

In matters of love, maybe it’s time for me to give much intentional thought and preparation to this sacred institution I will enter sooner than I expect.

And in matters of life and faith, maybe I should give similar attention to my commitment issues.



Author: Toluwanimi

Toluwanimi believes young people can do great things with their lives. “Give them wings; watch them soar,” He always says. He is a physician by training and a budding behavioral scientist with a keen interest in child and adolescent health and development. Having worked with teenagers for over a decade, he loves to study and practice evidenced-based methods of inspiring positive behavioral change. His current project, GrandHeights, aims to provide resources and mentorship connections that inspire and empower young people to realize their life’s full potential despite negative circumstances around them. He plans to develop an establishment that will conduct research, develop effective strategies that will impart hope, empowerment, and refuge for youth and families in at-risk situations. He also believes creativity can be a transformative tool and through his start-up, Missionary Creatives, he helps nonprofits tell their stories and develop strategies to drive growth.

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