The in-between



I wrote this article a long time ago, but it didn’t just seem right to post yet. Until yesterday.

I remember the excitement and immense feeling of fulfillment that overwhelmed me when I got my MB;BS from the foremost Nigerian Medical School at Ibadan.

It was just like yesterday.


I also remember the day “Donut” was released. Great gratitude that my words finally came to print before the whole world.

On those days, amidst the fanfare, I got a moment to consider the words scribbled behind the medical anatomy atlas my aunt gave to me in Pre-clinical school:

“The secret to my future lies in my daily activities.”

I don’t know where she got those words from, and where the textbook is at present, but those words have resonated ever since…

…that each day leading to the “big days” matter. A whole lot.

Everyone longs for the pay day – the day you finally acquire that degree. The day you tie the knots with the lady of your dreams. The day you release your book. And so on.

As good as that is, we must remember that the journey to the big day is twice as fulfilling and more important as the destination. Setting sight on the goal, but living one day at a time, on purpose, ensures that you enjoy the details.

Each day you scribble the words for that novel in progress, each lecture in that college, each day you pray – all lead to the big days of reward. Those are the days of learning diligence, of building capacity in the dark so that you can fare well when the spotlight comes.

I discovered that, most of people that fall on their faces after they become famous stumbled upon greatness. The journey wasn’t intentional.

When you look for the reward at the end and pay undue attention to it, every day in-between might be boring. Knowing your paycheck is arriving at the next weekend can be demoralizing to your daily tasks at your job. If care isn’t taken, you tend to mentally skip fourteen days, busy dreaming about the pay day rather than putting the best into your work. Enjoy your work and a paycheck is a given.

Setting inordinate affection on the publisher’s royalty might stifle the novelist creativity because it makes you lose the art of work. Hence, work becomes boring, and your creative bank is a shutdown because you are not intentional with each day. Enjoy where the story takes you and you can be sure your royalty is paid.

Lamenting about your spiritual targets can make you depressed. Fellowship daily and you’ll soar beyond your expectations.

Remember that the future (whatever it is you set sight upon) is a result of your daily activities. And while setting your sights on the end is good, you will learn a lot each day leading to the end.

When you immerse yourself joyfully into your work (academics, business, job, art, that book you’re writing etc.), the good days, and the not too good days will become ingredients in the pot, which spices up your life, rather than obstacles in your way.

Having failed at preventing you from discovering purpose, camping unrealistically at the endpoint is another strategy of the enemy to make you a mediocre.

Now, Psalms 90:12 makes more sense to me:

“Oh! Teach us to live well! Teach us to live wisely and well!” MSG

It is sufficient to know and believe that the end is good. But the in-between days, leading up to the end, makes for the journey that will become a story later, and, honestly, that is what makes life beautiful.

Learn the wisdom of process because that is the legacy you will leave behind for posterity. Enjoy your work and apply this to every area of your life.

Count each day, because Each day counts.



Seize the day


It’s a common experience of many young people to reach the end of the day and wonder, “what new productive thing have I achieved today?” Many will find nothing added to their lives. Asides from the normal mundane activities of daily living, and a little mischief, many teenagers aren’t proud of their day. They want something to be different.

They want to feel good about having achieved something significant. Behind the indifferent fascie many young people wear lies the desire to influence someone positively. But alas, society’s low expectations beat them back to the rat race. Every day.


If you feel the sameway as I have explained,  there is hope!
It isn’t only you that desires to live each day fulfilled. Tons of teenagers around the world feel similar to you.  And God does too! 

His word says,

“Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people), Making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity], because the days are evil. Therefore do not be vague and thoughtless and foolish, but understanding and firmly grasping what the will of the Lord is.”
Ephesians 5:15-17 AMP

God wants you to live purposefully and worthily. The way to do that is to make most of evry time. And this involves fully understanding amd grasping what God wants you to do.

God has promised to guide your day and show you what to do if you ask him. See what proverbs 3:5-6 says:

“Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God ’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. “

So you can confidently start each day, asking God to guide and lead you in your activities. Think deeply of ways you can add  value to yourself, and bring a smile to someone’s face.

It helps to put your thoughts to paper so you can track your progress.

You can make this your daily mantra-

“This is the beginning of a new day. God has given me this day to use as I will. I can waste it or use it for good. What I do today is very important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever, leaving something in its place I have traded for it. I want it to be gain, not loss — good, not evil. Success, not failure in order that I shall not forget the price I paid for it.”


Accident? No!

Hello Young people,
Listen to me this morning.

God is our father. We are the clay, and he is the potter. He made us. Isaiah 64:8

There’s no manufacturer that makes a product just for the fun of it. Everthing has a purpose.

Your life has a purpose. Rgardless of how you turned up on planet earth (unwanted pregnancy, unsuccessful abortion attempt or beautiful family) it can be any thing save an accident.

You are not an accident to God. He formed you for a purpose. Jeremiah 1:5. And you are uniquely fashioned with gifts and potentials that you ought to hone for the purpose you were created for- to His glory.

But first you must acknowledge that maker in your life. You must connect.

The world system, which did not create you has fashioned an alternate reality of low expectations. The Nigerian dream- they have told you that you need be a doctor, lawyer or engineer to be successful. They have made you think that you need to match up to that celebrity’s figure eight before you can be beautiful and confident and suited for that job.

They have constructed a typical home front before you which is downright dysfunctional. They tell you that ladies were created to be used and exploited by men. They told you that men were made to be horrible bosses.

They have sold you the idea that teenagers were made for foolishness and stupidity. They have turned your home to a boxing ring because they say there has to be friction between parents and teenagers.

Look at the present society- violence, low self esteem, depression amongst other psychiatric illnesses, frustration, pervasive emptiness and mediocrity in an all-encompassing rat race.

Can’t you see it’s not working?

God’s got a better way, that supersedes your wildest dreams of a good life. 1 Corinthians 2:9. It’s all enconpassing, balanced, and custom-made. Its just perfect. Coming to Him will make you forget your wandering in the world… No matter how long you have been doing that.

Turn to God today and let him breathe fulfillment into your life. He will teach you how to do life.

Connect. Learn. Grow. shine.

Originally posted on eatyourdonut

God loves you,

Introducing ‘The Donut Project 2014’

Hello everyone!

This is a message every young person needs to hear. Take a break. Pause and consider this before you move on with your life; before you take your next decision. This message will determine what you will make of the rest of your life. Whatever your reaction is to the message, it will affect you. It will touch you and grip you by your broken point and touch that sensitive part of your make-up!

It’s the story of the ring Donut.


Can you describe this lip-licking picture- what does this look like?

Well, if you said it is a box of ring donuts – round, puffy, glazed with ice toppings and chocolate spread or coconut crusts and candy streaks, you are right. It’s probably hot and freshly baked.

Hanson Gregory is referred to as the American inventor of the ring donut. The 16-year old sailor at that time disliked the raw centre of regular donuts so he invented the ringed donut by creating a hole with a tin pepperbox. No more raw-core donuts.

But then, he also helped illustrate the world’s most important question, which I did not mention in my description – It has a hole in the centre. Round, puffy, glazed with ice toppings and chocolate spread or coconut crusts. Hot freshly baked…

BUT has a hole in the centre!

Imagine a boy [or girl] like that – who has all he could ever ask for in life – wealth, beauty, intelligence, ideas… that chap will be the coolest guy on the block. But if he has got a hole at the centre of his heart, it’s really not worth it!


Looking Inwards

The teen years are like a trip down a hallway lined with doors. Behind each door lurks a temptation. Drugs, alcohol, sex outside marriage, and many others. Those doors used to be open only a crack. Today, they’ve been taken off their hinges. As you move into your teen years, to high school and beyond, you will walk down that hallway. Temptations will glitter and sparkle from all sides. The doors don’t carry signs that warn you of the consequences of the temptation, which can change your life in an instant and forever. You will have to choose whether to walk into the rooms, or with God’s help, to resist and walk straight down the hallway.

– Katherine Winkler 

Today’s teenagers are so… well, how would you describe them anyway. I’m just 22 but I feel like 50 in terms of the gap between my era and the blossoming generation of teens.

Seriously, there is a huge difference in the challenges and peculiarities of teenagers today. The internet was not much of a big deal in my teenage years. We weren’t that exposed to technology that was still in its formative stages in Nigeria anyway. Life was paced slower – and you didn’t have as much freedom to do whatever you liked. There was guidance from an elder on what to do. You really didn’t have to question what elders told you about life – they were right for the most part.

Not now! The lid has been flung off – there’s so much information and freedom of choice that we often leave truth aside. Parents are no longer at home with the children – they are on the rat race to put food on the table.

You know how it is now – even the primary school kid has an android – information is at your fingertips. Every young person wants to be on TV or at least wants to be a star. Fashion, sex, and money are topics not whispered anymore. It’s everywhere in the media and the young people are glaring at it.


But then, this is great! It’s great to be strong and to want to make an impact.

Knowledge, technology and freedom by far brings out the best in young people. The internet has made it easy for teens to be heard. But then, it’s also bringing out our worst. It’s influencing us more negatively than positively. It’s making us dummies at heart – devoid of truth.

In my days [I’m not that old], we did more of outdoor games. We related with peers on a face-to-face basis. We understood what it meant to sweat and get our hands covered in dirt and happiness and to run upstairs to wash up and clean up the house when Dad honks as the car approaches. He didn’t want us to play ball always.

In my time [some years ago anyway] TV programmes were censored. We had limited channels and even more limited access to those – not that there wasn’t pornography or nudity or all those vices, but it’s now thrown open in the street – on every billboard, every movie screen, every internet page, and every fashion fad.

Teenage pregnancy was a big deal then because we had just few cases. Now, there’s no shame in it anymore. More teenagers are getting involved in sex as lesser ages – and they know how to conceal it from their parents.

If only we could realize that this freedom is boring a large hole at the core of our being. While it’s glazing us all up and making us ‘tusher’, it’s making us like ringed donuts – puffy, glazed and iced on the outside but empty at the core!

Young people take pride in their strength, but the gray hairs of wisdom are even more beautiful.

 – Pro 20:29 CEV

Teenage life is the best of all – it is the period of your strength. You can do all you want to do! You can achieve big things with your life you can dream big and go to work to make it a reality. Don’t waste the energy on the empty life.

Let me share a bit of my insights with you so that you can at least weigh the pros and cons of this great life ahead of you and make a right choice!

Technology and globalization has by far brought out the best in us. Let’s not allow it to make us worse.

Emptiness and Evil has been painted colourful these days. Peer pressure, Sex, Drugs, Rebellion, romance. We faced these too, but then, you are facing a gamut of other things.

I feel for you, friends!

A lesson from the Megaloblast.

I happen to be a medical student and I glean many life lessons from school. Folic acid and Vitamin B12 are essential to red blood cell production. In the deficiency of these substances in our bodies, the red cell nuclei development is impaired. While the red cell cytoplasm grows, its genetic maturation isn’t so upbeat. Megaloblastic Anaemia means the red cells show delayed nuclear and functional maturation relative to cytoplasm due to defective DNA synthesis.

In essence, the red cell [megaloblast] is puffy outside, but defective at the core. So it can’t function and survive as it should. You know, megaloblasts are like ring donuts. They are puffy, glazed, iced but have a hole at their centre – empty at the core.

Young people are energetic and committed to what they love. I’m sure you want your life to make meaning… but then, the world today has found a way to always squeeze us into the mold of materialism and instant gratification.

We have been made to believe that young people are clueless about life. I agree that most young people are actually clueless. But I have also always seen young people being used by God in the Bible.

So the disadvantage is not the young age, but the godlessness – the depravity of our world that has eaten deeply into the crevices of our being. We get the stuffs, but within, we are sad and pressed behind. The media thinks we are no good so it paints a picture of what we should be – slim, lazy, crazy!

That is why I’m launching the Donut Project – a rebellion against the Donut life – which is empty even though it might be cool…


I am so passionate about young people. Since I left secondary school, I have had the passion burning within – which has refused to be extinguished. I want you to make a great influence in life, to fulfil purpose – to be the right teenager!

Without GOD, you might be puffy all right – fabulous, rich, brilliant, boxed up, handsome or beautiful – but nonetheless EMPTY.

So, I’m creating a blog on

This blog will feature articles and awareness that will lead to the release of my first book by the name Donut, which itself is not the end, but a means to an end. Give it a try – follow me on the blog or Facebook. You will not regret a minute of your time, I promise!

From one person God made all nations who live on earth, and he decided when and where every nation would be. God has done all this, so that we will look for him and reach out and find him. He isn’t far from any of us,

– Acts 17:26-27 [CEV]

I will post regular articles, updates and awareness about this move out of the empty life. I wish you would check it out as soon as possible and follow the blog. At least see what this is all about – you might not know the impact this is going to have on your life for good.

Tomorrow, we will discuss more! Check back please.